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Help is urgently needed.?

Posted in Babysitting on 17th November 2012

help is very necessary.?
the freshman and my big brother, he is a junior. it is for this girl, i can not stand, which is in its class! kyle (my bro) treats me like the 5usually and i dont it. were very close. but today when he “babysitter,” she tried to treat me like I was 5, and it made me really mad. I do not know if I say something or deal with her? I like the idea of ​​him a cool friend, I mean, in the only girl in my family would be so nice to other girls in the house, but tonight really upset me so i some help on what to do .. shes still here, “babysitter” with him, I can say something or let it go just because it makes them happy, and if I say something he might angrily Best Answer (s):

response of Dena
simply to silence her and tell her what is bothering you. Do not start a fight.

say response from FallenX
Id, your brother to 1 Tell him how you feel about them as clearly as possible and try not to ask a lot of changes on their part, just ask your brother to say to her, please treat another way, while you have two two mutually a little better after that happens i will not put any sense.

response from Canadiangirl you
should not confront them, but next time, if they treated you like 5, just say, I can do it, or I am ok, or if I take care, I’m just a statement that an adult would say … and simply do not act cute … or trying to get attention ….

INTERVENTION? ALL advice and knowledge needed… 20 year old,6 months PREGNANT!?

Posted in Babysitting on 16th April 2011

INTERVENTION? ALL advice and knowledge needed… 20 year old,6 months PREGNANT!?
So i have decided to separate from my baby;s father because of a marijuana problem he has… and his lack of responsibility with work, bills, and etc. But instead of just kicking him out to go move back in with his parents, I think it would be best for some type of intervention so he has the option to get help or if he doesnt want help to leave….

My grandma is basically my mother, she has really helped raising me since my parents had me in highschool, she has really been there through thick and thin,

Anyways my grandma is going to call his mother to talk about some arrangment with his mother so we can sit “him” down this weekend and get him help with his drug problem and help him improve his life. IF he chooses help, I will continue to be with him, and help him through it, if doesnt get help I will dis-continue our realtionship and get a lawyer and start the papers for full custody and child support. I just bought a house have a GREAT paying job that I will not lose, go to college and will continue after she is born…

Since in 3 months I will be giving birth to our child I have decided that I have done everything I could in the past 6 months to get him to quit or cut-down, shape up or ship out he hasnt done much improvement I DEARLY LOVE HIM BECAUSE HE IS THE FATHER OF MY CHILD… but im losing interest and its becoming a huge turn off for me because he isnt a driven person like me.

So when this intervention is happinning iam having a hard time putting my words together to make him understand Im not wanting to change him, BUT HIS ADDICTION PROBLEM… to better himself

I am asking am I doing the right thing but giving him this choice?
and what should I say to him to make him relize that i do love him and this has to end and needs to grow up

iINFO ON HIM
22 years old
no car
no driver lincense
G.E.D
works for parents business
works under 25 hours a week
making 9 an hour
smokes heavly cigrettes and weed
drinks ALOT of energy drinks

Best answer(s):

Answer by Rad-Tech
I say go ahead and ditch him. If knowing he was going to be a father didn’t change him, then NOTHING will. You are wasting your time and energy on him. He is a loser. My daughter’s father is just about the same person…and he is a loser too.

Answer by livandjaxsmommy
Well from what you’ve wrote to describe him I’d say he doesn’t have a whole lot going for him. I would tell him you don’t want to be with him until he gets his act together… It’s your life, your choice but you have to think about what’s right for your baby. An intervention will on;y help if he’s willing to work at it. There’s nothing you can say to make someone change they haveto decide for themselves. Good luck and COngrats on the baby.

Answer by alicialions
I say you have to give the father a chance, he has as much right to the child as you do. If you want to make it legal and can prove him unfit to have anything to do with the child then do that, but otherwise you are in the wrong to just not allow him access if he wants it.

Answer by Amy G
Ok so I see what you are saying with an intervention but he is only going to change when he wants to.Now I am not judging but didn’t you know these things about him when you got pregnant????I think you are doing the right thing by giving him a choice it shows that you really do love him and you want to continue the relationship if he is willing to step up to his bad habits and look them in the face.You need to realize that this is going to be a long process and change isn’t going to happen overnight and most likely will not even take place before your baby comes.#2 -you can’t say nothing to him to make him “grow up”that has to be in his own time maybe if he refuses to seek help for his addiction and you leave and take baby that will make him grow up (if he cares)Just remember this can’t be an empty threat and you must follow through otherwise your situation will never change.Good luck.

Answer by parent
You do realize that he will not be the same person and he is most likely self medicating a problem. When or if he does come clean it will be a couple of years before he even knows himself. Your young and on your way, why do you want to save him. Even after you clean him up he still may not be a driven person.

Answer by Aikidoka
Look this is a difficult issue. At 22 he’s probably not ready to be a father and is in denial. You do need to wake him up to that fact. Smoking weed is a demotivator and if that was all I would say it is a life choice to smoke it. But since there is the caffine and niccotine addiction as well, the weed is a contributing factor. Bottom line is that your BF is an addict. Its not just weed. Take the weed away and it will be alcohol. He needs to be treated for addiction not Weed addiction. Look at the bigger issue here. He may be ADHD and getting drugs that help regulate his thought processes will help dramatically. Bipolar is another disorder that addition is linked to. Seek professional help in this area as it will not be easy and he will reject the attempt to treat him. Best of luck.

Answer by GagesMomColie
iINFO ON HIM
22 years old
no car
no driver lincense
G.E.D
works for parents business
works under 25 hours a week
making 9 an hour
smokes heavly cigrettes and weed
drinks ALOT of energy drinks

Sounds like my ex minus the weed and the job and the GED.
He’s been out of work for 7 months. Says he;s trying, but I doubt it.
He’s my ex for a reason. He’s not worth the time and effort, he wouldn’t follow through on his promises for getting a GED or his license. He dumped me when I was 4 months pregnant and that was the best thing he ever did.
Dump him, find someone better. Someone out there will want you and your son and can actually provide for you and not be a loser.

Answer by louie
k well, he has already had a choice. you have told him before, shape up or else, and he chose the or else. At this point, you dont need an intervention with everyone, he isnt a druggy from what you have said, he smokes pot. What you can do, between you and him, is sit him down and tell him youre done with his immaturity, lack of responsibility etc. Tell him you want him out untill he can figure out what is important to him. If he wants it to work with you and the baby, then he will work full time and TRY to quit smoking and weed. You cant change someone who doesnt want to change. Right now, he is doing what he is doing because it works for HIM, and he has gotten away with it thus far. Dont drag the family into your issues at this point, from the sounds of it, he is a typcal guy at a young age, not prepared for adulthood and parenthood.
As far as the energy drinks go, they are bad for you. My BF had an addiction to them up untill about 4 months ago. He was drinking 4,5 a day against my warnings and his families warnings… Its a live and learn situation. Now, he is suffering from major stomach issues, cant eat without stomach pains, going for blood work, and getting tested for ulceres. They are dangersous if drank in excess. Moderatly is fine, but even one a day i think is bad.

When a Reliable Basitter is Needed!

Posted in Babysitting on 26th January 2011

When a Reliable Basitter is Needed!

Article by Pieter West





There comes a time when every parent faces the fact that he or she needs a babysitter. Even if these parents are surrounded by friends and family who are more than happy to care for the child in question on a regular basis, there will come a day when everyone is busy or otherwise engaged and he realizes that a there is a babysitter needed.  What should you do in times like this?  What do you do when you’ve asked your friends for recommendations and nobody is available?  How can you find a babysitter when you are in desperate need of one?Some parents will hastily post a “babysitter” needed ad online at local web-based bulletin boards like Craigslist or Kajiji or the boards for their local government websites.  Some of these parents will start calling the numbers that have been posted on similar ads that advertise babysitting services.  It is important that, if you take the internet route to finding a babysitter, you take extra precaution to ensure that you and your children are not victimized by a predator or scam artist.  One of the best ways to do this, when you find that you are in a “babysitter needed” situation is to start contacting your local babysitting or nanny placing agencies.  A lot of these businesses advertise online and have websites and, most importantly, some specialize in always having a sitter or nanny available to help out parents who need a babysitter on a last minute basis.  The nice thing about utilizing one of these companies is your ability to thoroughly check it out.  You can make sure that the company is registered with your local governmental authorities.  You can do a check through the Better Business Bureau to see if any complaints have been filed.  You can even do a search for reviews of these companies that have been made on personal blogs and websites.  It is far easier to check out a babysitting or nanny placing agency than it is to do a background check on a single individual applying to fill your “babysitter needed” position.  Single entities can lie about their personal information and catching them in that lie can be almost impossible.    Of course not every person who answers a “babysitter needed” ad is out to get you but in this day and age when danger seems to be everywhere, it is a good idea to thoroughly check out all of your prospects. Ask every babysitter you are considering hiring for resumes, personal and professional references and, if you are so inclined, permission to do a background or criminal records check.  If the babysitter is offended or refuses to give permission simply move on to someone who does not refuse.  Any babysitter who is worth hiring will understand why you are being so thorough and will be happy to comply.  It wasn’t that long ago that people felt comfortable leaving their kids with the neighbors when they couldn’t find a sitter or even leaving them at home alone if the kids